So when is the perfect age to get married ?

I met up with a group of friends 2 days ago, we were secondary school classmates before. One is missing, as all of us have decided not to include her. She's the one that's always spoiling the party. I've talk about her in the last post. She'll come to these gatherings & tell us how successful all of us are, except her. She has gotten married only 1 year after graduation, while some of us are not even attached now !

The baby came soon after, so she's busy with motherhood, while all of us are kinda enjoying our single life. We can empathize but it had gotten real bad. She had started making all of us feel really bad. As if we have left her behind on purpose while we go on with our 'glamorous life'. We end up talking about why each of us stopped calling her.

The common consensus is that, she made us seem like villains. It's crazy. Though she'll refuse to admit, it's really about her regretting getting married & having a baby too soon. We cringe at the thought of having to take care of a baby, a home, a husband & in-laws at this moment. Of course in the future, we'll all want a family of some kind, but certainly not now .... we are still young.

So when is the perfect age to get married for a girl? 30, 35? Would that be too late for babies? Not if you do not want a child. Strangely it seems, it's not so important for us, but if the other party wanted children, ok then no choice. LOL.... We seem to agree with that!

We have nothing against babies, as long as it's not mine ....lol....

Letting people go ...

I have this friend who kept telling me what a perfect career I have. It got to the point where I have to gently tell her it's not perfect, in fact it's down right awful. The long hours, the lack of rest, the pay etc... Then after all that, & also reassuring how wonderful her life really is, she'll kinda calm down. Unfortunately the 'same' thing will start again the next time I talk to her.

It got to the point where I avoid talking so much to her. Now she's complaining to others, I'm too busy with my glamorous life. It's been a while since I talk to her. So last night I called, to check on her. After badgering me for a bit, she sort of told me off.

Well I guess I have to take it as a signal. Sometimes you just need to let someone go. A mutual friend sent me the below pic, she was the first to stop contacting her ...lol...

I've done worse since my break up, or have I not ?

I've finally open the Christmas present from my EX, it's a very nice bracelet from Tiffany's which I love. Sigh.... As you all know my EX & I are still friends. So I texted to say "thank you & you shouldn't have, since we are no longer attached." Then he said, "I saw the bracelet, & couldn't stop thinking you'll love it, so I bought it ". Now I wander what will his present girl friend think of that!

Anyway , Yesterday morning he text me, " what is it I heard about this Hank guy? You dating him?" I don't know, I immediately felt a little angry- how dare he? We broke up, he has no rights to "check" on me like that. Plus Hank the guy that I went out with only twice so far (after knowing him for about 4-5 months) , is not as good looking as my ex. Also financially not as stable, so in a way it's like I've done "worst" since the break-up ! My ego was hurt. But Hank is a nice guy, very considerate maybe too nice for me!

Mel the colleague who had introduce Hank to me on her wedding day (can you imagine!!!!) thinks that my EX is not over me yet. Anyway I don't know what's the deal, but after a few heated texts, we decided to meet for lunch. I wanted to tell him off to his face.

Lunch was too elaborate, at a fancy place. It felt like a date, which I'm wary of. My bestie reminded me, the reason why we broke off, so I'm suppose to just be polite , tell him off, or to mind his own business, eat my lunch & go back home or go shopping. He arrived wearing the first tie I bought for him. I should have throw it away, when I have the chance. Anyway we were talking  & he has to go into why am I 'short changing ' myself with someone who's clearly not my equal ( meaning someone who's making less than me ). I shouldn't have agree to this lunch. I immediately felt like seeing Hank tonight, just to get back at the Ex.

I quickly finish lunch, tell him how wonderful Hank is, which I could see pisses him off. We parted , both angry, as usual! I texted Hank, arranged for dinner !

Is it right to receive gifts from ex-boyfriends?

My Ex boyfriend gave me this for last Christmas.

No I've not open it yet, as I don't know what to expect. I know it's been like 20 days already. Is it even right to receive expensive Tiffany gifts from an EX ? Why does he do it? He said it's nothing- he just want to give me something for Christmas. But it's Tiffany's ! You don't go around giving normal exes gifts from Tiffany's right?

My friends said I should just open it & see if it's silver or gold ! Oh... boy....  Meantime it's sitting on my bed side table. He just texted & ask me if I like it? Told him I've not open it. He said I should, he had spent 1 hour choosing it !

Dr Stretch, The latest Stretch Therapy ! I'm going to try it :))

Have you heard of Dr Stretch?
I was complaining to a friend about my sluggish body etc.... Also I'm not into massage & don't like exercising.
Then he said for people like me, I could try this Dr Stretch thingie. It's a place where they (a trainer) will stretch your body for about an hour. They have it in Suntech & Nex.

I've ask some friends, and they all agree it sounds WONDERFUL- it's something we've been waiting for. Someone to do the stretching for us 👍 Yes we admit we are just too lazy to do it ourselves😆 !

We are going for the free trial soon, so pretty excited,😉

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What to do after I quit flying ?

I have often being ask what would I do after I quit flying. It has always been assumed I would quit after a few years & move on to something better & more solid. What people do not know is, many of my colleagues do stay on for a long long time. Like a friend from another airline, she worked till retirement age at 55. I had met her when she took my flight a few years back. It was a long flight & she talked to me & ask me about my company, just to pass the time I guess.

Anyway, no harm planning for the future right? Another colleague of mine & a good friend said we should attend some courses- To net work & check out some possible opportunities. So we did. We signed up for one of those courses that's very popular now. I would not say which here because, even though I dont find it very helpful. Still I'm sure it could help certain people. The contents is pretty common sense.

Like they stress we should hang out with positive people. Because being with them you'll be inspired to work harder & be more positive, which is a per-requisite in fulfilling goals. They site some studies that reveal our friends & colleagues greatly impact the choices we make in life, therefore we need to be selective with people whom we hang out with most. I was thinking you dont need studies to know that right? I see many people taking notes & later go up to the instructor asking multiple questions. Me & my friend were more interested in checking out who are the people who goes to such events.

Many are middle aged possibly got retrenched. Or maybe they just want a second career. We were busy discussing our theory when this guy started talking to us & eventually ask for our numbers to 'keep in touch' ...lol.... In all by the end of the course, we had collected more than 10 numbers, all male, all insisting on keeping in touch ....lol....

Please keep in touch baby ...lol...

Does your mum pack your traveling bag?

I have this group of very close friends from work & we hang out all the time. Last week we had steam boat, and one of them brought a new colleague along. A young guy, less then a year with the company,I've never flown with him before. When I went to the restroom, I passed him in the corridor , he was on his cell.  I overheard part of his conversation. I don't mean to but ..... , He was calling home to his mum, asking her to pack his luggage bag as he'll be flying off  the next day.

When I told the rest later, everyone go  ...WHAT ......... ??? As if he's 5? He is 25 by the way. Zara said his mother could be choosing all the different color underwear .... & packing them nicely into the luggage....lol.... what a mummy's boy. We went on to tease him mercilessly throughout the night.

What bothers me even more is that he's surprise we don't let our mums pack our bags when we travel. Oh boy..... he thought we were weird for not letting our mums do that !!! I ask him, can I put this in my blog. He said : ya sure, just make sure everyone knows he's good looking ...lol...
Ok people , seriously .... he's very cute ...haha...